Pride is listed as one of the seven deadly sins. Last Thursday, I wrote about things I was hoping that I was teaching my kids. I had a long list of ideas and whittled away to the top 10. One of my thoughts I had was that I wanted to teach my kids pride.
Pride, I thought. Isn’t that a sin, though?
With a deadline approaching, I decided to not include the topic and to think more about how pride should (or should not) fit into my kids lives.
Pride as an adult
A couple of weekends ago, my husband, kids, and I went to visit my folks. While we were talking, my mom told me that she was so very proud of me. She was sure that she was put on this Earth to be my mom, and she was proud of all that I had accomplished both in my career and as a mother. Wow!
If you don’t know it already, there is nothing in this world like having one of your parents tell you that they’re proud of you. But more than feeling joy at hearing those words, I felt pride for myself. I felt proud of what I have accomplished and who I am as a person.
This wonderful moment helped me decide Yes, I do think pride is important for kids.
Pride as a kid
There are three reasons why I want to teach my kids pride.
- Pride is a moral compass. If you are ever wondering about doing or saying something, think about if you will be proud of your behavior later. That is a wonderful way to establish a code of conduct for yourself.
- Pride goes hand in hand with effort. When we try and work diligently, frequently we are proud of the results. Sometimes hard work (like practicing a sport or hobby) will not result in true greatness immediately, which can be discouraging for kids and adults alike. However, with practice comes improvement, and that is certainly something to be proud of.
- Pride helps you be yourself. When you behave so that you have nothing to be embarrassed about, you can stand a little taller. Even if you are different from other people, having pride in yourself, your actions, and your accomplishments can help you have the courage to keep being yourself.
What do you think? Is pride a sin or a virtue? Let us know below.
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