Every now and then, a bad day happens to us all. No matter what we do, they will always exist. True, without bad days you cannot appreciate the good days as well. However, that doesn’t make them any less annoying or painful. Here’s 6 quick steps that changed my day from bad to good, and hopefully, they will help you, too.
1. What makes you think your day is bad?
Take a moment to think about what is causing you to feel like you’re having a bad day. Maybe something significant and horrible has happened. (I’m talking about losing a job, a home, a loved one, or getting seriously hurt.) Maybe it’s nothing as significant as a big loss, but your day is still bad anyway. In any case, identify what is making you feel like you’re having a bad day.
2. Is there someone who can help you?
Once you have identified the source of your bad day, think about if there is someone who can help you with your issue. For example, my bad day was based off of frustration with technology. I am not tech savvy and, even though I am really loving writing and publishing these articles, the concept of getting my articles to rank higher in Google searches so that my content can reach more people really brings me down. During my bad day, I found out that my articles were not ranking well and that I needed a “sitemap.” This was very frustrating and discouraging to me. And to be honest, I felt beaten by the system. It was, in fact, the cause of my bad day.
However, I started looking for resources about sitemaps and improving my SEO searches (go ahead and yawn, I know I did). While reading an article on SEO searches, I left a comment for the author expressing my frustration about my situation and looking for guidance about creating a sitemap. It made me feel liberated. When I shared what was frustrating me with an expert, it felt like a great weight had been lifted. I felt like surely I was well on my way to having this problem be solved. In my mind, the clouds lifted and the sun came out.
3. Is there anything you can do about the issue?
Think about the root of your bad day. Is there anything you can do? If the answer is no, just move past this and on to #4. If the answer is yes, try to brainstorm several different things you could do. Maybe you haven’t thought of brainstorming as part of the way to make your day better, but it can be very helpful.
Let’s go back to my example of trying to increase my site’s SEO search value. My brainstorm looked like this: I could read more articles about how to increase the SEO value, I could research how to make a sitemap, I could try to build my SEO by adding valuable comments on more popular sites (hoping that people will start checking out my site and linking to me), and I could wait for the reply from the author of that SEO article (but that would be a non-action). I chose to do all of these things because I wanted my SEO-related headache to go away as quickly as possible.
4. Talk to a friend.
Regardless of whether your day has made a complete turn-around or not, call a friend. There is nothing quite like hearing the voice of someone you love and trust, someone who “gets” you and your problems. Friends can lend an empathetic or sympathetic ear, but don’t forget to ask about them and how their day is going. (People will not want to answer your calls if you only call to verbal vomit all over them and then go.)
Be open to hearing what your friend has to say. Maybe they have been in a similar situation and have some advice based on experience. However, maybe they have not been in your position before, but they have the clarity of being removed from the situation. Normally, our best friends have a lot in common with ourselves, so open your mind and ears to their suggestions.
5. Do something for yourself.
Many of us spend a bulk of our days doing things for other people. With so many demands on our time, sometimes self care can fall through the cracks. Bad days are the best time to choose to do something for yourself.
You don’t have to take a lot of time, just 10 minutes will do. Think about what you have been wanting to do, and then do that. On my bad day, which was already becoming quite good by this point, I exfoliated and lotioned my feet and trimmed my toenails. It was something I had been wanting to do for weeks, but I kept putting it off. To spend those extra minutes on myself felt like a party!
6. Appreciate what you have.
Maybe at the end of the day, you have not been able to navigate your day from bad to good. It certainly does happen. Whether you have been successful in changing your day or not, take the time to specifically appreciate what you have. Be grateful for the people around you, the comforts you have, and the gift of a brand new day tomorrow.
If all of these steps fail, you can follow this advice.
However, I prefer to enjoy this song from Despicable Me 2.
What are some tricks you use to change your day or mood?
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